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Sep 14Liked by Andee Scarantino

Wonderful, insightful stuff. Some concepts are hard to grasp, like the herring I pulled out of the river in Plymouth, MA ca 1978 with my bare hands, but this speaks more to the Way of the World and how it influences our "wiring" than you're writing style. Love the idea or rewiring anyway, but that in relation to serving kicks ass. Thanks for this, A.S.

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Thanks Jack. 🙏🏻

YOU PULLED A HERRING OUT OF THE RIVER WITH YOUR BARE HANDS?

Savage. 😅

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Sep 14Liked by Andee Scarantino

I was 10 and had no idea what I was doing or why. It was the herring run, where they all bolt upstream to…um…do fish stuff. There were THOUSANDS of them passing every second. #PureLuck

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Sep 14Liked by Andee Scarantino

I’ve thought about this before. What if my wife sees our life a certain way, and is bringing that about?

But

What if I see how she sees our lives a certain way, bringing about her bringing it about?

All we can do is be charitable and positive when we think of others, as you say. We should do our best not to sabotage anyone.

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All we can do. And if there’s something in us holding on, that’s our work.

I used to sabotage a close family member. Lots of pain around that one- I had to work through it before I could genuinely wish him well.

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Sep 13Liked by Andee Scarantino

Wow, my favorite post! My takeaways:

- sobriety is about redefining or eliminating your identity

- change our negative perception of certain others, bc it can affect them!

- there are no holidays now, so going sober today is perfect!

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FAVORITE!? High praise!! Love your takeaways ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Sep 13Liked by Andee Scarantino

Day 1 baby! #5 - what if you created them - that is powerful - changes the energy completely. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

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DAY 1 !!!! 👏🏻 Love you, my friend. That one rocked me

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Good Morning Andee. This is a thought provoking writing. All of your headlines resonated with me, especially #4. The others were important but #4 is the greatest among equals for me. Maybe it was because you mentioned running and training for marathons. Having completed two fulls, there is now way/no how I could have run 26.2 miles without training and commitment. I think that is what separates the marathon from shorter distances - the honesty that the distance requires from a training/commitment standpoint. Arguably, one can lace up there shoes and run a half with little to no training. You might feel like crap during it and for a few days afterwards. But marathon - nope...you are either in 100% or you ain't gonna make it work.

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You know #2 lands for me. For a long time I couldn’t even envision any potential “other side.” It just felt like euphoria and then darkness. But over time, I’ve seen glimpses of the other side as I shed layers of my identity.

I couldn’t forgive myself for so long. But now that I have forgiven myself, held myself with love, I am walking this road, and I will continue doing so.

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